Truer words………It is MUCH more difficult than you may suspect. The Female must be willing to endure many states of moodiness. She MUST remain firm. If he wishes to succumb to YOU…..it’s either THIS or You will find ANOTHER. There are many out there. No matter how much You may love him - call his bluff. Then You will have the IDEAL mate. All he will learn to do is think of YOU. This particular model is uncomfortable; but if he uses the proper lubricant (Eros) it won’t chafe as ‘much’. slave must be able to SLEEP!!! I can’t stress this enough. he must sleep and go to WORK (for You).